Sorry I’ve been a bad blogger.
I’ve been thinking about writing this post for a while but I just didn’t feel ready to share my story with you until now. I feel like I’ve been a bad blogger over the last few months and I wanted to apologise and give you a little bit of an explanation as to why the site went offline last year and why I’ve been a little inconsistent with posts lately.
I know I don’t usually write personal posts on Lipstick & Cake but my life has changed dramatically in the last year and it affected the blog a great deal. I’m not looking for sympathy or pity, I just wanted to let you know why Lipstick & Cake has been going through these changes and maybe, just maybe, by sharing my story I’ll be able to help someone who might be going through a similar experience.
Last year my husband and I split up. It was a trial separation to start with but we’ve since decided that we won’t be getting back together. Whilst I’m extremely lucky to be going through a very amicable break up, it is still the saddest and most horrendous experience I have ever been through and I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone. It’s not just the marriage breakdown itself that’s painful, but also how others have dealt with (or not dealt) with our news. Whilst divorce is unfortunately common these days, there still seems to be a lot of judgement passed and it can be embarrassing, especially when you’re the first in your group of friends (and grade at school) to go through this. Whilst incredibly difficult and sad, I know that my ex and I made the right decision and we’re both happier for it.
For a while there I was able to continue blogging and it was a good distraction, but then it all got a little too hard and I didn’t have the energy or passion to do it (or much else for that matter) so I went offline for a few months. However, during my separation I did manage to complete Marie Forleo’s B-School which was one of the best things I’ve done. Whilst I initially started Lipstick & Cake as a hobby, I soon realised how much I loved blogging and hoped that one day I could turn it into a full-time career. B-School showed me how I could do that, how I could turn this dream job into a real job and it also gave me the confidence to take another giant leap – late last year I decided to leave my job and follow a few dreams which included blogging full-time and also travelling the world. Eight months later I have completely redesigned the site, I have lived in LA for four months and am now back in Sydney (for now) and can see my site and my business growing bigger and better every day.
Whilst I am a lot happier and my blogging passion had returned to almost 100%, there were a few tough days where I’d wake up and be unable to get my shit together enough to push out a post. I’ve been sitting on a newsletter for weeks, my inbox was getting out of control, I’ve missed a few Friday Favourites and have a huge backlog of articles that need to be published. I was feeling terribly guilty and overwhelmed and I didn’t know how I was going to kick it.
But, thankfully last Thursday afternoon something happened…I guess you could call it an epiphany. I just suddenly realised that I didn’t want to be sad anymore and I didn’t want to continue going through a roller coaster of feelings and moods and let them effect the blog. I love this blog and I love my readers and whilst it’s taken a while I’m finally ready to put my head down bum up and grow this thing!
So, I sincerely apologise for the inconsistency shown on this blog over the last 9 months and I thank you for being so patient with me. I promise that Lipstick & Cake is going to get bigger and better from here on out and I will send out that damn newsletter THIS WEEK!
Anyway… as I mentioned earlier this isn’t a pity post, I felt dishonest keeping this from you as I share so much of my life with you and felt like I was living a lie by not opening up and sharing what I’m going through. I am very lucky to have so many wonderful readers who have all been so patient and lovely and very supportive of me and Lipstick & Cake.
To all of those out there who have been through a relationship break down, snaps to you. This shit is hard!
To those of you currently going through it, I feel for you and am here if you need an ear…or a shoulder.. or be distracted by food.
If you know someone going through this, I know you feel like it could be awkward to say something but you have no idea how much it will mean to that person, even if you just send them a text saying ‘Thinking of you’… this is a very lonely time and your friend(s) need all the support they can get.
And finally, to my family and friends who are reading – THANK YOU! I am so lucky to have you. You have definitely helped me get through this tough time and I owe you cookies, babysitting duties and/or lots of cups of tea.
Thank you for taking the time out to read this, I promise I have lots of yummy recipes and fun posts coming for you this week. Stay tuned!
Love Steph x